Vows, the modern love letter.

I often think of writing personal vows is like the modern love letter. In our busy lives it’s a beautiful time to pause and reflect on what it is you love about your partner. You may lack the confidence to put pen to paper or wonder where to start, so here’s my advice on writing personal vows.   

Remember this isn’t about wowing your guests it’s about your connection and speaking your truth to each other. Your guests will be in awe anyway of what you say to each other because it will be personal and from the heart.   

Before you write anything down decide if you’re going to write your vows together, alone or as a surprise to each other. Whatever you choose to do find yourself a space without interruption, pour a drink and put on a song that reminds you of your love.  

These few questions will help you get your creativity flowing, there’s no wrong or right answer. 

·         What did you think when you first met, how did they make you feel?  

·         When you look back at your relationship what stands out, why?  

·         Write 5 things you love about them and think of examples.  

Is it their generosity? How do they show they have a generous soul? 

Do they inspire you? How do they do that?  

What have you learnt from them?  

What drives you crazy?  

Do you have any in jokes or quirks?  

·         What does this marriage mean to you?  

·         How would you describe your love?  

·         What do you hope for your future?  

·         How do you want your loved one to feel, when they hear their vows?  

Words that you can use to help you link your vows  

I promise to … 

Because of you I … 

I vow to fiercely … 

Thank you for …  

I’m grateful … 

Without you …  

I will always …  

Inspiration can come from anywhere a favourite song, movie or a book. Here’s some of my favourites;   

All I’ve ever wanted, all I’ve ever needed, is here in my arms  - Depeche Mode

I love you for all that you are, all that you have been, and all you’re yet to be  - Ernest Hemmingway

I don’t know where we will go from here but I promise it won’t be boring   - David Bowie

I'm not your average celebrant

I recently won The Best Wedding Celebrant in Yorkshire and North East at the prestigious The 2019 Wedding Industry Awards.

It’s such an honour to win this award which is decided by real client feedback. It marks the end of an incredible first year for me as an independent celebrant. I’m so pleased to hear my couples have loved my ceremonies as much as I have loved working with them.

For me, the exciting benefit of working with a celebrant is the opportunity to rip up the rule book. It’s perfect for couples who want a truly bespoke ceremony that reflects your vibe and personality.

I pride myself on bringing integrity to your ceremony, I will spend time getting to know my clients so I can make the perfect suggestions from content and music to sharing ideas for symbolic rituals. 

Adding rituals and traditions to your ceremony is one meaningful way to include your values and beliefs on your wedding day.  One of the most simple and beautiful ways is to use a candle. Light is one of the most universal and fundamental symbols. It can represent the spiritual, the divine and intelligence. In illumination, light is seen as a source of goodness and reality. Adding light to a ceremony can demonstrate unity, a new beginning and act as a source of comfort in dark times.

Celebrant ceremonies offer couples an unlimited choice on where and when you can have your wedding celebration and there is no restriction on content or style. It’s a great choice for couples who want something alternative, that’s going to wow your guests. It can also be a budget friendly way to have the wedding of your dreams.

I’ve always been inspired by the truth of love, how it uplifts and can heal us. There is no greater feeling than at the start of a ceremony when you can feel how much love surrounds the couple. I really enjoy encouraging my couples to think outside the box, together we’ll craft a masterpiece that will evoke feelings that will last a lifetime.

What you can expect from me after you've made an enquiry

“What happens next?” is a common question a lot of couples ask me. You're in the driving seat but I'll be here to make sure it's a smooth ride and we have fun along the way.

It can be overwhelming having unlimited choices, where do you start? I like to get to know my couples as soon as possible. I'll give you a call or FaceTime to say hello. It's important that I'm the right fit for your day. I'll spend some time on the call getting to know what you'd like from the ceremony. You may not know the details yet but we can start to think about style and how you want to feel on the day.

Closer to the day we'll meet in person over a glass of wine or cake. We will create the format for your day and plan readings and symbolism.

After this I'll be working away in the background listening to the songs you love and a bit of Leonard Cohen for inspiration.

Next steps are sending you the draft copy. I hope you like it! At this stage you can edit, add bits in, take things out until it's right. I, like you want this ceremony to be one that's remembered for a lifetime.