Congratulations, you’re engaged! Wondering if – and how – you can style your own wedding?
Planning a wedding is one of the most incredible experiences, a total roller coaster of emotions. You’ll love it one moment and loathe it the next. With so many choices and ideas out there, you have an abundance of options when it comes to celebrating your day. But let me tell you about the best kept wedding secret for personalising your day – it’s celebrants. We’re here to give you a truly bespoke, creative wedding ceremony, that you can co-design with a wedding celebrant of your choice.
I work with contemporary couples to create and deliver their wedding ceremony; giving couples an original and authentic way to mark life’s most important events, in a way that reflects your style and will wow your guests (if you choose to have any). My ceremonies are perfect for couples with rebellious souls, that want to stand out from the crowd with a ceremony that speaks of your love.
Celebrants are like a secret society of creative problem solvers, empowering you to have an unbelievable wedding.
There really is a celebrant out there for everyone; whatever your style or vision for your wedding day, we’re here to make sure your ceremony exceeds your expectations. It’s so much more than just a script. Together you’ll create memorable moments, something beautifully genuine that’s love filled and unique to you.
“There are all types of love in this world, but never the same love twice”. F Scott Fitzgerald
I’ve always been inspired by the truth of love, how it uplifts and can heal us. I believe my role is to help you celebrate that individual love. Who wants to be the same as everyone else anyway? One of my favourite things about being a celebrant is bringing meaning and personality to ceremonies. I love encouraging couples to think outside the box, explore their wildest dreams and wishes. It’s a privilege to be part of the creation and hear real, brave and bold love stories.
Your story can be a great place to start.
Understanding what is special to you and what matters most is the focus for creating your ceremony. There are no restrictions on the type of ceremony you can have; it can include all the traditions, modern twists, religious content, humour or something completely alternative. Your ceremony can take place day or night, indoor or outdoor and doesn’t have to be in a licensed venue. If you’ve dreamt of a wedding celebration on a beach, at your family home or at the place you first met, you can have it. Imagine it. Total freedom.
When I married my husband in 2015, we became increasingly frustrated by the package approach and desperately wanted to have more freedom with where and when we could have the ceremony. To be honest, we had no idea at the time that there was an alternative to a faith-based or registrar ceremony. We stumbled across it when I was talking to a friend who’s a funeral celebrant. I was telling her how I loved the eulogy and storytelling element you see in modern funeral ceremonies and would love to bring that uniqueness into our ceremony. Who knew! We could! We legally married a couple of days before the wedding celebration at our local registry office, taking our Mams along as witness, then celebrating with shots of limoncello and pizza. (I’ve never drunk limoncello since)
Our wedding ceremony took place that weekend in a local art gallery. It was everything and more than we wished for. Our celebrant empowered us to have the ceremony we wanted, rather than what we thought we should have to please everyone there. And our guests loved it because it was so us! It set the tone for the rest of the day. We worked together on the style of content; nothing cheesy or overly sentimental; that isn’t us. We agreed we wanted a mix of traditional elements and some modern twists; nothing bland and boring with guests waiting for it to hurry along so we can all get to the bar. I asked my cousin who set up our first date, to talk about her hopes for our future. She was the very reason we met; involving her the in ceremony was so important to us.
One of the most beautiful parts of the ceremony was our vows. We wrote our own vows as a surprise to each other. I will cherish that moment forever. If you’re thinking about writing your own do it. It’s your moment to be true to you, raw and real. Don’t worry about anyone else there; just focus on what you want to say to each other.
I understand that it can something feel overwhelming planning something as special as a wedding, and you might feel apprehensive about planning the ceremony too. Don’t be; your celebrant has your back. From the first meeting to understand your vibe, to when you burst with pride walking up the aisle together (other exits are available), you’re guided through the process with your ceremony extraordinaire celebrant.
You’re fully involved in the process of creating your ceremony; it’s a collaboration of sharing ideas to create something authentic and meaningful to you. I describe it as you’re in the driving seat. I’m there to make sure it’s a smooth ride and suggest you go off the beaten track to explore, as the view is often more beautiful. There is no greater feeling for me than helping to solve problems for clients. If you’d like to have an outdoor ceremony, you can have it. If you want to have your ceremony at midnight, you can have it. If you want to celebrate or blend your faiths into the ceremony, you can.
Make it Personal
There are many creative ways you can add a personal moment to your ceremony too. For thousands of years we’ve added rituals and symbolism to ceremonies to add more meaning, from the simplicity of lighting a candle to represent the start of a new beginning, to using sand blending to celebrate a new family unity.
So now you’re in on the secret of celebrants: you can rip up the wedding rule book.
Don’t settle for anything that makes you feel ordinary.